As teens evolve into young adults over the four years of high school, friendships grow and change. This process of change was magnified during the pandemic, when most upper schoolers were in middle school. Still, according to a recent study on the state of American friendships, 51% of people report feeling satisfied to completely satisfied with the number of friends they have.
Everybody has experienced difficulty navigating friendship dynamics, but differences occur in how people deal with these changes.
Sophomore Henry Fenlon believes that friendships change because people “grow apart.”
Senior Ezra Straub thinks that “Friendships change because of interest. As you grow up, you might have different interests than your friends do, and I think that is one of the big things, especially in high school,” he said.
Juniors Evan Morris and Phillippe Cristobal agree, “People have complicated lives, and a lot of things come up like stressors,” Morris said. Cristobal said, “Check-ins are definitely needed, and sometimes I give my friends time if they need it.”
Lilly Parr, a new 9th grader to the school this year, believes that “Friendships change because people’s interests change and what people are doing over time changes and sometimes people need space to grow,” she said.
Freshman Mariya Chaudhary believes, “People may grow apart, but sometimes that’s just for the better.” Chaudhary has experienced close friendships diminishing over time because of growing apart. “A scenario when a friendship has changed dynamics is when people change their style or personality,” she said.
Changing friendships is due to different factors, like different interests, growing older, lack of communication, or physical separation. However, it is important to remember that relationship changes are a natural part of life, and these changes are sometimes for the better. Falling out of friendships or making new friends can help one determine what to value in a friendship and how to seek out those values in others.