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Why do friendships change?

SIMILAR EXPERIENCES. Everybody has dealt with changes in friendship, whether it be losing a close friend or making many new ones.
SIMILAR EXPERIENCES. Everybody has dealt with changes in friendship, whether it be losing a close friend or making many new ones.
Nabeeha Qadri & Audrey Jansen

As teens evolve into young adults over the four years of high school, friendships grow and change. This process of change was magnified during the pandemic, when most upper schoolers were in middle school. Still, according to a recent study on the state of American friendships, 51% of people report feeling satisfied to completely satisfied with the number of friends they have.

Everybody has experienced difficulty navigating friendship dynamics, but differences occur in how people deal with these changes.

SWITCHING SCHOOLS. Changing schools definitely has an impact on friendships since one stops seeing old friends as often.
SWITCHING SCHOOLS. Changing schools definitely has an impact on friendships since one stops seeing old friends as often. (Nabeeha Qadri )
GROWING APART. It's natural for friendships to slowly fall apart due to a variety of factors; whether it be changes in the environment or changes in life.

Sophomore Henry Fenlon believes that friendships change because people “grow apart.”

GROWING APART. It’s natural for friendships to slowly fall apart due to a variety of factors; whether it be changes in the environment or changes in life. (Nabeeha Qadri )
TRANSITIONING. Friendships can evolve from elementary to middle to high school because of increasing academic pressure and social complexity.
TRANSITIONING. Friendships can evolve from elementary to middle to high school because of increasing academic pressure and social complexity. (Audrey Jansen)
DIVERGING PASSIONS. People develop new interests and values as they grow older.

Senior Ezra Straub thinks that “Friendships change because of interest. As you grow up, you might have different interests than your friends do, and I think that is one of the big things, especially in high school,” he said.

DIVERGING PASSIONS. People develop new interests and values as they grow older. (Nabeeha Qadri)
TALK TO ME. Open communication fosters trust and the ability to solve conflicts when they arise.
TALK TO ME. Open communication fosters trust and the ability to solve conflicts when they arise. (Audrey Jansen)
TIME TO GROW. Taking a break from someone is not a bad thing necessarily. It can help reassess a friendship and gain perspective.

Juniors Evan Morris and Phillippe Cristobal agree, “People have complicated lives, and a lot of things come up like stressors,” Morris said. Cristobal said, “Check-ins are definitely needed, and sometimes I give my friends time if they need it.”

TIME TO GROW. Taking a break from someone is not a bad thing necessarily. It can help reassess a friendship and gain perspective. (Nabeeha Qadri)
LET GO. It is frustrating that things that used to be so fun with somebody do not have the same appeal after a period of time.
LET GO. It is frustrating that things that used to be so fun with somebody do not have the same appeal after a period of time. (Nabeeha Qadri )
SPACE TO GROW. Make new friendships and deepen old ones by making time for people and being open.

Lilly Parr, a new 9th grader to the school this year, believes that “Friendships change because people’s interests change and what people are doing over time changes and sometimes people need space to grow,” she said.

SPACE TO GROW. Make new friendships and deepen old ones by making time for people and being open. (Nabeeha Qadri )
OLD IS GOLD. Make close relationships last by giving time and effort.
OLD IS GOLD. Make close relationships last by giving time and effort. (Nabeeha Qadri )

Freshman Mariya Chaudhary believes, “People may grow apart, but sometimes that’s just for the better.” Chaudhary has experienced close friendships diminishing over time because of growing apart. “A scenario when a friendship has changed dynamics is when people change their style or personality,” she said.

Changing friendships is due to different factors, like different interests, growing older, lack of communication, or physical separation. However, it is important to remember that relationship changes are a natural part of life, and these changes are sometimes for the better. Falling out of friendships or making new friends can help one determine what to value in a friendship and how to seek out those values in others.

 

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